I love all things female empowerment and I am all about creating equal opportunities for women but what I'm not here for is a lack of accountability. How do I mean you ask? Well, stick around and hear me out ;)
Before making it gender specific let's just make it human; nobody is perfect and we all have our shortcomings. I believe that is something that we can all agree on, right? If that is the case why does it feel as if women are sometimes not held accountable for their actions or better still, we do not hold ourselves accountable for our behaviour?
An example could be in the area of choosing a partner. Perhaps you've had a string of failed relationships for one reason or another. You then proceed to proclaim that "Men are trash". Maybe they are, maybe they aren't but what is clear is that the only common denominator is you. I feel that if relationship after relationship is breaking down and the reasons are similar then perhaps the issue is you and not making the best choice when choosing a guy. It happens to the best of us and it really is not that deep. Before jumping into a relationship so soon afterwards maybe sit down and think about what exactly am I doing wrong. This is only applicable obviously where the reasons are constantly similar each time. In general however I think it's good to really think before entering a relationship. Granted, it doesn't stop mistakes and disagreements from happening but at least you know that this is who you chose and you can hold yourself responsible for that choice.
Other areas where I think accountability is key is in the choices we make and not just in a relationship context. Yes, we can sit there and state that society has affected the way we view ourselves or the way others view us but eventually we have to come to the realisation that we chose to accept that view.
We chose to accept that only one size is socially acceptable
We chose to accept that our hair is not right in its natural state
We chose to accept that the measure of the strength of a woman is in how much she tolerates at the hands of a man
We chose to accept that there are no good men out there and that all men are trash
I could go on but simply put there is no true empowerment without accountability; we have to acknowledge and accept that certain decisions have worked to our detriment. It is only when we do this that we are able to truly move on along the journey of self-love.